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Laboratory for Advancing Dispute Resolution Skills

From the Dispute Resolution Institute at Mitchell Hamline School of Law

We Once Were Friends

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Resources > We Once Were Friends

Duration: 50 minutes plus debrief

NextGen: No 

Teaching Notes: Yes

Skills: ADR | Negotiation 

Skill Levels: Basic 

Type of Resources: Simulation 

Subjects: ADR | Negotiation 

Modality: Both Online and In-Person

Participants: groups of 2

We Once Were Friends 

Jim Hilbert 

 

This is a simple conflict resolution scenario designed for junior high and high school students. The scenario puts the students in the position of former friends who are on the verge of a potentially violent confrontation. Designed with input from young students who have been subjected to many suspensions and other discipline, the scenario recreates some of the real tension and stress experienced by many youth. Students must figure out how to resolve the conflict in a way that comports with their sense of pride and feels realistic under the circumstances. The exercise includes worksheets for identifying the interests of both parties and for brainstorming possible ideas that could be part of a resolution.

We Once Were Friends: Overview (PDF)

We Once Were Friends: Instructor Notes & Background (PDF)

We Once Were Friends: Brainstorming Ideas Worksheet Sample (PDF)

We Once Were Friends: Interests Worksheet (PDF)

We Once Were Friends: Interests Worksheet Sample (PDF)

We Once Were Friends: Role Info for “D” (PDF)

We Once Were Friends: Role Info for “Red” (PDF)

 

Laboratory for Advancing Dispute Resolution Skills Teaching

Dispute Resolution Insitute at Mitchell Hamline School of law

875 Summit Avenue, Saint Paul, MN 55105-3076 | dri@mitchellhamline.edu

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